Absolutely Stop Having Negative Self-Talk About Yourself
How often do you find yourself talking down or negatively to yourself? Come on; you can be honest; no one is watching you raise your hand here. Are you even aware that you’re doing it? Many people aren’t even aware that what they say to themselves mentally or mutter under their breath is negative and sabotages their progress and success. So, in today’s article, we will talk about the different ways you can absolutely stop having negative self-talk about yourself.
You first need to become aware that you are doing it and pay attention to when you are doing it. If you mutter things to yourself when something goes wrong, start listening to yourself. You’re likely being negative. If you use phrases like, “Well, I knew that would happen,” “Well, that’s how things go for me,” or “Why should I expect anything to be different,” or “That’s just my luck.” Then you are engaging in negative self-talk.
Things will go wrong. Everything isn’t perfect. When these situations happen or arise, it’s best to move on and not even acknowledge them, especially if you can’t be optimistic about them. I know it’s hard to be positive when everything seems to be going wrong. However, if you notice when one thing goes wrong and react negatively, it will create a domino or snowball effect, and the rest of the day will go the same. If you walk away, so to speak, and do not let it bother you, things will start to go smoothly again.
Giving Negativity Power
More often than not, it’s one little minor instance that gets the ball to roll. When you mutter or think negatively about it, you give power to the negative, and it escalates. Instead, try having a positive thought. Think of something you’re grateful for. This will not only change your mood and outlook, but it will change your vibration as well. When you get into a positive vibration, it helps to repel the negative.
Over time, negative self-talk can lead to low self-esteem, low quality of life, a sour outlook on life, and everything else, leading to health problems. You rarely see positive people suffer from the same maladies as negative people. Negative people tend always to have something wrong with them, even if it’s minor things, and many of them spend a good deal of time going to the doctor to find out what’s wrong with them. You hear them say, “Of course, I’m getting a cold. I always get sick.” “There’s always something wrong with me.”
That’s not to say that positive people never get sick or have ailments, but they generally heal or recover faster, often without going to a doctor for medication.
Start practicing positive affirmations. This won’t be easy in the beginning if you’ve been a negative thinker for some time, but you can start practicing when you are in a good mood. Doing this will prepare you to use them when thinking negatively or to talk down to yourself.
Pay attention to the things that make you think and feel negatively. There’s often a pattern to these events. If you can start to catch these events and use your affirmations, you can ward off a full-blown damaging meltdown. It may even feel unnatural initially, but it will get easier once you start practicing this.
You don’t have to go through life being negative. You can change this behavior. Just like any changes in behavior you make, this one will take time and can be very challenging. It is worth it in the long run. Try it and see if you don’t start to feel better; see if people don’t respond to you better. No one wants to hang around a negative person. If you want to be someone people consider friendly, start practicing having a better attitude and stop the negative self-talk.
Are you Using Follow-Up Emails and Autoresponders with your clients? If you’re not, you should be. I’ll explain why below.
When it comes to going above and beyond to provide exceptional customer service, don’t forget about usingfollow-up emails and autoresponders. These two tools are some of the most powerful ones you can use.
Welcome Your New Customer
The first email message your customers should receive is a welcome email. In this email, you’ll want to give access to the product or service your customer purchased and tell them how to ask for help if needed. You could say something simple like, “Need help? Hit reply to this message and I’ll get back to you within 24 hours.”
Follow Up Promptly
You’ll want to send a follow-up email about 48 hours later. Ask if your customer received everything they needed and give them a second link to download the product they bought. If they had to sign up to download their product, remind them to log in with their username and password.
A third email message should be sent 10-20 days after the original purchase. If you sold an information product, ask your customer if they’ve put what they’ve learned from you into practice yet. By Using Follow-Up Emails and Autoresponders will help your customers trust that you have their best interest at heart.
You can even highlight a customer that did and share how they used your product. For example, you might say, “Shannon purchased my course on affiliate marketing and noticed her affiliate earnings climb as soon as she implemented the first two lessons.”
Give a Status Update
If your customer has purchased a service from you, then you can use this email message to give an update on your project. For example, you might say, “I’ve been working on that e-book for you and I’m halfway through it. I expect to be finished by [date]. In the meantime, are there any questions you have that I can answer?”
Updating your clients about the status of your project may seem like a small thing. But it puts customers’ minds at ease and lets them know you’re still working hard.
Use Reminder Emails
If you’re selling a service, set an autoresponder to follow up after three months. Use this email to ask if you can be of any further service. This can jog a client’s memory and remind them to assign a project to you they’d forgotten about.
You can also use this reminder email to ask for a testimonial. You might say something simple like, “I enjoyed collaborating on your project. I’d love it if you’d share your experience working with me in the form of a short testimonial.”
When your customer service goes above and beyond, your customers will love you for it. They’ll enjoy using your products or services so much that they’ll become brand ambassadors that share how awesome your business is with everyone they know.
Today’s article is about getting comfortable with change. So hang onto your hats because it’s a good one. Dealing with a change in your life can be downright uncomfortable. Don’t you agree? I mean the larger the change, the more uncomfortable you will feel. Although these feelings are completely normal, there are several ways you can help yourself become more comfortable with change. I’ll explain below.
Let Go Of Past Convictions
If you face a big change, you’re going to have to let go of the way things were before. Whether this is how you used to do things or the way you used to think about something. Either way, you will be unable to embrace and be comfortable with your current change if you are still worried about something which happened in the past. It’s time to let go.
Decide Where You Want To Go
Time and time again, studies have shown that there is power behind visualization and positive convictions. And this most certainly applies in times of change. If you decide you will be comfortable with the change, no matter what may come your way, that is likely how things will go.
Know What Makes You Happy
In times of stress, it is important to know yourself and how best to release your stress. If you are facing an especially uncomfortable part of a change, it can help you do something you do find comfort in to lessen the feeling of discomfort. For example, if you like to run and have just moved to a new city, consider going out for a run in your new location to increase your comfort levels.
Learn To Adapt
This may seem like a given, but part of becoming comfortable with change is learning to expect things to change. Be ready to assimilate yourself into these changes. The change will seem much less drastic when you mentally prepare yourself for it. You can help increase your adaptability by spending time in meditation and visualizing possible changes that could come.
It could also help you have backup plans for yourself. So if something fails on the first try, you have a backup plan in the meantime until you try again. Just knowing you have a backup plan will feel a bit like a safety net, helping you feel more confident and comfortable when changes inevitably come.
Overall, change is uncomfortable, but you can help increase your comfort level by learning to let go, knowing where you want to be, and the things in life which make you happy. Change is inevitable, so increase your comfort with change by learning to adapt and prepare for it.
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Letting go of your past to move on is often easier said than done. Besides just enabling you to move forward, there are many other reasons why you must let go of past events. Because with a past weighing you down, you’ll never be able to greet the future with open arms. This article will help you to figure out how to let go of your past.
The Past is The Past – It Ended
First and foremost, you need to let go of the past because it is just that, the past. If you spend time and mental energy thinking about things that have happened or events you wished you could have prevented, this is valuable energy wasted. Instead of putting this energy into your future goals, you are putting them into something that will never change.
And if you spend too much time worrying about the past, you may soon find you’ve wasted away the present as well.
Dwelling On The Past Will Only Hurt Your Outlook
If there’s something in the past you are specifically dwelling on, that’s likely because it was a situation that caused you a large amount of stress or sadness. And you may not realize it, but inviting these memories into your mind is inviting these negative emotions back into your life.
As long as these emotions cloud your judgment, it will be difficult for you to look forward with optimism. This is a key part of achieving your future success.
You Are Not Your Past – It’s Over
The things which may have happened previously in your life may have shaped who you are today. But you must remember you are not these experiences. Your mind created any attachment you have to these past events. They will continue to hold you back as long as you let them. How to let go of your past is crucial to understand because if you don’t, your life could just pass you by with you going nowhere.
Cut the ties today and commit to a new life unattached to what may have happened in your past.
Ready to Be Finished?
Letting go of the past and committing to move forward is never the easy option. If it were, everyone would do it. But it is impossible to go towards a positive future without also having a positive attitude and outlook on life. And holding on to your past will inhibit you from doing so.
So, if you want to be successful in the future, take the first step by committing to letting go of your past today. You will feel so much better after you accept the fact that you need to do this to move forward.
Have you ever just felt stuck in your life? As if you are going around and around in a circle and you can’t seem to break out? Well, this could be because something in your life is creating that problem. Today’s article discusses just “What’s Holding You Back From Moving Forward?” in more detail so you can crush it and focus on yourself and your business.
You’re Playing It Too Safe
If you are constantly worried about the future, and this worry keeps you from taking risks, this is probably the number one reason you aren’t moving forward. To move forward, you have to live a little and do something which makes you a little uncomfortable—it’ll pay off in the end.
The next time you are faced with something that takes you out of your comfort zone, give it a try—you may find a little risk is a positive addition to your life.
You’re Stuck In The Past
To move forward, you have to learn to let go. The past is the past for a reason. Remember it fondly, but make sure you aren’t focused on it. Don’t devote any time to it, as this will keep you from being able to propel yourself forward into the future. And that’s what you want, right? Living in the past will suck up your whole day and make you feel miserable. I know from experience that you don’t need that in your life today!
You Doubt Your Abilities
If you want to make changes to better your life or move forward, you can’t do so if you constantly doubt yourself. Have a little confidence in yourself. Just deciding to move forward is a big step, and only the most successful people do so. If confidence is something you struggle with, consider trying some tactics to increase your confidence. And please do this before making a large change in your life.
You Are Hanging With The Wrong Crowd
Are all your friends stuck in dead-end jobs? I bet they complain about how miserable they are, don’t they? According to Jim Rohn, you are the combination of the five people you are closest to in life. And if these people aren’t going anywhere, you likely won’t either.
Be especially careful if you find yourself spending time with people who seem to talk down about your future. Don’t let their negative outlook become yours, as this could end up holding you back big time. No one said moving forward was easy, but it may feel impossible if you are being held back. Instead, choose to make changes to your life to stop your convictions, past, and your friends from holding you back. After all, moving forward is part of being successful and having a happy life.
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Starting over can be tough. And even if it’s not challenging, rarely is it ever easy. If you’ve recently had to start over, you’re probably feeling a host of emotions such as uncertainty, stress, and fear. Although you may be scared, you shouldn’t fear new beginnings because they do signify some amazing things coming into your life. This article today focuses on why we shouldn’t fear new beginnings.
Taking Power Over Your Life
Starting on a new beginning in your life is the ultimate sign of power. Something in your life happened, and you decided you didn’t like it, so you made a change. Not only that, but you likely made a change in the direction that you wanted your life to go.
When you embark on this new beginning, you are taking away the power from the source of whatever caused you the trauma and returning it to its rightful owner, yourself. And this is what makes new beginnings so incredibly powerful.
New Beginnings Are Needed To Grow
As sad as endings are, there is always a reason something came to an end. No matter what that reason may be, the reason something ended is so that you can have a new beginning. Without new beginnings, you may never be given a chance to build yourself up to your full potential. Think of it this way; if you were a goldfish, you would probably love the fishbowl you live in.
It’s cute and cozy, and you’ve been there your whole life. Now suddenly, you’re in a three-gallon tank. This is probably scary, but you need this larger tank to grow! In this case, the goldfish will die if left in the small bowl—therefore, even if the giant tank may be terrifying, the goldfish must move to survive.
You Know More Than You Did Before
If your trauma was a result of a mistake you previously made, don’t fret. As you embark on your new beginning, you can do so with confidence because you now know more than you did before. Mistakes are normal, and starting anew is a sign you’ve learned from your previous mistakes, and you are committed to not making them again.
Overall, whatever your new beginning may be, you’re likely feeling a bit nervous as you think about it. But don’t worry, new beginnings, while scary, are necessary. They teach you lessons and let you take back power over your life. You may not feel great at first, but someday you will look back and be thankful you started over.
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Today’s article discusses why new beginnings make us so scared. If you’ve ever experienced a new beginning, or if you are currently preparing for one now, you probably feel a combination of both fear and stress. And these feelings are completely natural as new beginnings scare everyone in one way or another. This fear is occurring for many reasons you may not even realize.
The Preliminaries – Something Is Ending
The number one reasonnew beginnings scare us so much isn’t that something new is starting. But rather something which made us happy before is ending. Change is natural, even though it may not feel natural at the time.
Just remember that when something ends, it’s because something better is coming for you. Don’t try to hang onto something which is falling apart. This can make the new beginning even more difficult if you are still grasping for the past. Instead, be grateful the past happened and commit yourself to moving forward.
Fear Of The Unknown – The First Stage
When you start over either in a new location or job, you have no idea what this change will bring you. You don’t know that it will be better or more fun. You hope it will be, which breeds fear. Humans are naturally built to fear what they are uncertain about. But don’t let the fear scare you, instead push forward and tell yourself that this change will be for the better. You may just be surprised at the power a positive outlook can have.
Your Last New Beginning May Not Have Worked
If you’ve changed your life drastically a few times, there’s a chance that the idea you may fail in another new beginning is contributing to your fear. But don’t let these emotions control you. Why New Beginnings Make Us So Scared is a natural process. As mentioned above, your outlook is a huge part of your success in this new situation.
Remember why your last new beginnings didn’t work out and use this knowledge not to make the same mistakes again. And most of all, believe in yourself because you can do it!
New beginnings scare everyone. After all, to have a new beginning, something else had to have ended. But don’t let the fear of the unknown or past mistakes lead to fear of new beginnings. Instead, know that new beginnings are a good and necessary part of life, and your fear will likely lessen if you embrace the coming change with open arms.
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Examples Of New Beginnings That Could Change Your Life
Deciding on new beginnings can be scary or stressful. But they can also be exciting and invigorating. Either way, change is important and often necessary. It could change your life if you’re looking for a change. Below are a few examples of new beginnings that you might find interesting.
These examples could change your life:
Deciding To Start Your Own Business
Quitting your job to pursue your ventures can be extremely difficult and stressful. But if you do so, you will likely have more time and energy to apply to your business, which will likely help your business reach new heights. Before you know it, you’ll be working on your schedule and enjoying financial freedom like never before!
Paying Off Your Debt And Resolving Not To Acquire More
For most people, getting out of debt is a long road. And once you make it there, you may be tempted to use that credit card once again. But resist the temptation. Starting over and telling yourself, that you are done with credit could change your life. Not only will you have to adjust your daily spending habits, but you’ll be surprised at all you can save. From there, the sky is the limit!
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Moving Somewhere New
Are you unhappy where you are living? In this day and age, it is easier than ever to pack up and go somewhere else! So, don’t wait! When you move to a new location, now only are you physically changing your life. Still, you are also opening yourself up to a myriad of new experiences and people. Who knows which of those may be part of the amazing future life you are creating?
Quitting Junk Food
Although it can be difficult, if you create a new beginning where you no longer buy junk food, eat out, and resolve to cook for yourself instead, the results will be astounding. Not only will your everyday life likely transform, but you will find that you feel better, which can have effects on other parts of your life. This one may not be as drastic as the others on the list, but it is still a commitment to a new beginning that could change your life for the better!
Making new beginnings your decision:
Overall, new beginnings can be any time you decide to make a drastic change to a portion of your life. Or, your entire life. It depends on you and what you want for yourself.
If this were me, I would stop sitting around, and start looking for a new beginning to transform my life into whatever I want it to be. Changes won’t happen unless YOU take action! Make some decisions NOW!
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If you’ve recently experienced something disheartening or traumatic in your life, just the thought of starting over can seem like too much. And maybe you’ve heard someone say, “you can’t run from your problems.” But according to Psychology Today, this can’t be further from the truth as there is immense power to be found when you start over and allow yourself a new beginning. In today’s article, we are discussing the power of new beginnings.
Your Outlook Is Everything
You’ve probably been told that your outlook on life is all that matters in success, and this is true. If you think everything is dark and dismal and headed for disaster, it likely will. When you commit yourself to start over or to begin again, you will do so by generating a positive outlook, or sense of optimism, at the thought. This optimism will help propel you forward and likely make your future much brighter no matter your journey.
Change Creates Power
Humans often naturally try to avoid change. But although you may think a change that has occurred isn’t a good thing, the human race thrives on the aspect of change. A new beginning is a special type of change. It is a change where you are committed to making something different about the future.
Of course, only you know what that truly is, which makes this change a good thing; it gives you back the feeling of power over your life. The power which you may have felt like you recently lost due to your trauma. Not only that but making the covenant with yourself to move towards a new start is a power move that will lead you to feel confident and ready to conquer your new world.
It Reminds You That Sky Is the Limit
If you have experienced trauma before, you might be knocked off the path from your last journey. And you may be feeling a bit lost. Besides a lack of optimism, you may feel like your dreams are now far from attainable. Help quell these feelings by thinking about what a new beginning would look like for you.
Visualize yourself happy and achieving your dreams somewhere else. It feels a little bit more real now, right? A new beginning is powerful in that it removes any limits you let trauma impose upon your life.
Whatever may have happened in your life, a new beginning is just what you need. Not only will starting over restore your optimism and power over your life, but it will also remind you where you are going and bring you back to the track of success.
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Change is often difficult and uncomfortable. And you may have a hard time knowing when it is time to make a change in your life. But, how do you know when it’s time to change? There are several signs you can watch out for, which can help indicate to you that it is truly best for you to make a change.
Read the information below and see if you can see yourself in any of these situations.
You Aren’t Proud of Your Friends
When your best friend calls you to tell you her exciting news, and all you can feel are feelings of anger and jealousy, this is a sign that something is making you unhappy in your own life. If this happens to you, take a good long look at what makes you unhappy in your life, and when you find it, start working towards changing it.
You Spend Lots of Time Daydreaming
Everyone daydreams sometimes, but if you are spending more time in your imagined future than the present, this is a sign that you need to change something within your life. Perhaps consider starting by turning one of your daydreams into an achievable goal.
The Difference It Can Make
So how do you know when it’s time to change? Let’s look at a few more situations and see if you can see more of yourself in them.
You Lie About How You Are Feeling
When your friend or coworker asks how you are, you should say you are great without having to lie. If you find that you’re always telling someone you are okay when you are not, this is a bad sign. You deserve to be happy, and you might have to make changes in your life for that to happen.
Your Development Is Just Lacking
You Know There Has To Be More To Life
You know the feeling. Maybe you get off work and sit in traffic and know there has to be something different out there, which is better for you. If you have these feelings, then change is most certainly a necessity in your life. Feeling like you need change is the most certain sign that you need change, and it’s time to listen to these feelings. You’ll feel better when you do.
Sometimes it may seem like staying the same is the easier choice in life. But if you find you are no longer proud of your friends, daydream all the time, and feel awful, this is a sign that it is time for you to make a change. And if you think there has to be more out there for you than there currently is, it is most definitely true, so take the leap and commit to making a change in your life. You’ll be so much happier with your life that you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.
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