Choose Your Thoughts
Now that you have thought about how you choose your thoughts it makes a big impact on your growth and potential. You can also take a look at another area in your life. First, take a moment to realize that there are two components to mindset. You either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.
Growing up, you may have been told that you are not as good as someone else. It might have been in a certain academic subject, sport, or talent. This has been your belief for all of your life. After all, weren’t you told this over and over again? You’ve heard people in your environment from parents to teachers that you were not as good as someone else in a certain area. This gives you the perception that you are not “good enough” because that’s what you’ve been told. Yes, it’s true and it happens to a lot of people. Not just children, but adults too!
On the other hand, someone may have told that you were perfect in a certain subject or area and never really taught to question those parameters. You may think that the bar was set. That you reached the goals and that your job is done. This is part of growing up with a fixed mindset.
Are the stories you created as you grew up had a negative effect on you? Did you judge yourself as someone who is not as good, simply because a statement was made on one occasion? You held onto that belief with no prompting from someone else, yet you continued to carry it into adulthood. Either way, there is no need for blame in either of these situations. As an adult, you are free to re-create your life as you see fit.
Choosing Your Words for Your Self
When a friend comes to you feeling unaccomplished or less than, you more than likely are an encourager. Someone who takes their feelings into consideration and lifts them up. Why not do that for yourself as well. Change your thoughts, change your mind and watch how you talk to yourself as well.
When it comes to yourself, do you beat yourself up? Do you criticize yourself and not give yourself the same break you would give your own friend? Choose kinder words of communicating for yourself and be aware of too much negative self-talk.
A growth mindset allows you to tell yourself that you did not do as well as you had hoped and also speaks to you that you can and will do better, achieve more. All this without the negative self-talk that comes along with it. It’s all about making yourself feel better, which is a much better way to see yourself. I would think you would agree with that, don’t you?
Choosing Your Words To Others
In the same manner, you should want to speak to yourself with kindness. You should also encourage yourself in order to foster your potential and development. Also, take that opportunity to foster and encourage the development of others in your life.
Instead of making excuses for them, hold them accountable. You can encourage them to see where they can do better. Offer them the possibility of achieving more and doing greater things with their lives and with their minds.
When you choose your words carefully, whether to yourself or to others, you make a difference which can then result in making a change.
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