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How to Let Go of your Past

How to Let Go of your Past

Letting go of your past to move on is often easier said than done. Besides just enabling you to move forward, there are many other reasons why you must let go of past events. Because with a past weighing you down, you’ll never be able to greet the future with open arms. This article will help you to figure out how to let go of your past.

 

The Past is The Past – It Ended

 

First and foremost, you need to let go of the past because it is just that, the past. If you spend time and mental energy thinking about things that have happened or events you wished you could have prevented, this is valuable energy wasted. Instead of putting this energy into your future goals, you are putting them into something that will never change.

 

And if you spend too much time worrying about the past, you may soon find you’ve wasted away the present as well.

 

Dwelling On The Past Will Only Hurt Your Outlook

 

If there’s something in the past you are specifically dwelling on, that’s likely because it was a situation that caused you a large amount of stress or sadness. And you may not realize it, but inviting these memories into your mind is inviting these negative emotions back into your life.

As long as these emotions cloud your judgment, it will be difficult for you to look forward with optimism. This is a key part of achieving your future success.

 

You Are Not Your Past – It’s Over

 

The things which may have happened previously in your life may have shaped who you are today. But you must remember you are not these experiences. Your mind created any attachment you have to these past events. They will continue to hold you back as long as you let them. How to let go of your past is crucial to understand because if you don’t, your life could just pass you by with you going nowhere.

 

Cut the ties today and commit to a new life unattached to what may have happened in your past.

 

Ready to Be Finished?  

Letting go of the past and committing to move forward is never the easy option. If it were, everyone would do it. But it is impossible to go towards a positive future without also having a positive attitude and outlook on life. And holding on to your past will inhibit you from doing so.

 

So, if you want to be successful in the future, take the first step by committing to letting go of your past today. You will feel so much better after you accept the fact that you need to do this to move forward.

How Do You Do Business in Today’s World?

How Do You Do Business in Today’s World?

 

Do you do business like a woman or a man?

 

Did you know there are two distinct styles of doing business — a man’s way and a woman’s way? Neither is wrong or right. But this information could make a huge difference when writing a business email, starting a new project, or even making a pitch. This article is all about this question, how do you do business in today’s world?

People often tell me that in business my approach is pretty direct. I usually get straight to the point in meetings. I want to know the important information and whether we can do something or not. That’s called a man’s way of doing business.  I learned this method when I worked in the Corporate World, otherwise, you were never heard, being a woman. But, I can also change my style when the situation requires me to.

 

Here’s the Nitty Gritty on business:

 

A woman’s way of doing business involves talking about things at length. You have to communicate differently with a woman and discuss how things could /should work. She loves to be asked, “What do you think about this idea?” She usually comes at things with her “emotional side“.

There have been times when I got into strife by treating someone like a man when they wanted to do business as a woman. As soon as I realized this, I changed my approach and asked them how they were doing, what they did over the weekend, or how they felt about the project we were working on. And our communications changed immediately.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re actually a woman or a man. In any workplace, you’ll come across men who like a woman’s way of doing business and women who do business like a man.

So look around at the people you work with. Do they do business like a man or like a woman? What about you? Do you prefer a man’s way or a woman’s way?

 

Use this awareness to have more fun in your business

 

Here are 3 additional tools to add to your repertoire.

  • Women, you don’t have to be a bitch

I’ve come across women who have decided that they can only succeed by being big, bad, tough businesswomen. That’s simply not true! Women can be great manipulators in business. Ha, is this YOU?

Manipulation is considered crafty or even deceitful, and that’s one definition of the word. It also means handling a situation easily and skillfully —that’s the kind of manipulation I’m talking about. When I see women operate as if they’re nasty or mean, I’m tempted to say, “Do you know how easy things would be for you if you used a little manipulation?” Are you one of these types of Business Women?

 

Even when people know you’re manipulating them, it still works in business

 

What if you could have fun with manipulation?

  • Never confront

Asking someone questions is a great manipulation. A question is designed to dissolve any conclusions you might have and create a totally different outcome. It also allows the other person to give you feedback and ask their own questions.

If there’s a difficult conversation to be had with someone, the first thing I say to them is: “I’m confused. Can you help me with this?”

Confrontation

Never justify, never confront in your business

 

If you force a confrontation, people have to fight you. No, not by using fists!

 

SAY WHAT?

When you say you need help, perhaps because you missed something, the other person will try to fill in the blanks; they will try to help you.

This tool really works!

What you’re looking for are greater clarity and more awareness. It’s not about right or wrong or winning and losing.

The only time confrontation may be helpful is when you desire to control a situation or to end a relationship.

  • Men, you don’t have to be the commander-in-chief!

As I mentioned, a man’s way of doing business is quite direct. Many men have been taught that they have to give and follow orders.

They think they have to be the authority at all times and people should simply do as they’re told. This approach can lead to blind followers and that’s something you don’t want in your business. Do you really want that?

 

Invite the people you work with to contribute to your business

 

Every person in your company or business has a different perspective and their own awareness. So are YOU willing to tap into that? I’ve noticed that entrepreneurs rarely act like “commanders-in-chief“.

Their usual approach is, “What does this person know and what can they contribute?” Entrepreneurs constantly ask questions about every aspect of a business.

You can only do business as a man or a woman, but that could limit what’s truly possible in your business. Use this information to have ease of communication.

What if changing how you do business is as easy as changing your clothes?

Hit me up in the comments below and let me know what your opinion is!

 

How To Get Into a Mindset Ready For Change

How To Get Into a Mindset Ready For Change

How to Get into a Mindset Ready for Change

 

Changes, no matter how minor, can be an extremely difficult part of life. But if you know that changes are coming (and they always are), there are ways in which you can adjust your mindset. You will need to prepare yourself for these changes.  So, in today’s article How to Get into a Mindset Ready for Change, we are going to discuss a few methods on how you can get ready for the changes to come.

 

First, Let The Past Go

 

If you are holding on to something, or someone in your past, it will be impossible to meet the future with open arms. And since you never know when it may be time to change, make it a practice to let go of things that regularly negatively impact your life. That way, you will be able to adequately embrace change when it does arrive.

 

Stay Curious Mentality

 

Never be afraid to ask questions. And keep your mind open when you get answers. By questioning the things around you, you engage your critical thinking skills, which may be required when you make a change. Staying curious is best done by asking “what-if” questions about any situation you may encounter.

 

Have Backup Plans

 

A lot of people think having a backup plan is not having confidence in yourself. And this isn’t entirely true. Although you should never plan to use your backup plans, you should still have them. Creating scenarios when things may go wrong engages the same critical thinking skills listed above. And having these critical thinking skills can help you better anticipate problems or issues. This makes changes much easier to embrace.

 

Look For Inspiration

 

If you are going through every day on autopilot when change happens, it will likely shock you. You won’t know how to respond. On the flip side, if you are constantly looking for ways in which your life will change, you can expect one of two things. When it does change, you will be more prepared to handle whatever is coming your way. And two, even if it changes in a way you didn’t expect. One of the best ways to look for inspiration is just by looking within yourself during a period of meditation or visualization.

If you want to be ready and prepared to meet whatever change comes your way, you must get into the proper mindset now. You can get yourself in this mindset by leaving the past behind, remaining curious, looking for inspiration, and by having backup plans. All of these combined will help clear your mind and prepare your critical thinking skills to conquer the unknown.

 

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What’s Holding You Back From Moving Forward?

What’s Holding You Back From Moving Forward?

 

What’s Holding You Back From Moving Forward?

 

Have you ever just felt stuck in your life? As if you are going around and around in a circle and you can’t seem to break out? Well, this could be because something in your life is creating that problem. Today’s article discusses just “What’s Holding You Back From Moving Forward?” in more detail so you can crush it and focus on yourself and your business.

 

You’re Playing It Too Safe

 

If you are constantly worried about the future, and this worry keeps you from taking risks, this is probably the number one reason you aren’t moving forward. To move forward, you have to live a little and do something which makes you a little uncomfortable—it’ll pay off in the end.

 

The next time you are faced with something that takes you out of your comfort zone, give it a try—you may find a little risk is a positive addition to your life.

 

You’re Stuck In The Past

 

To move forward, you have to learn to let go. The past is the past for a reason. Remember it fondly, but make sure you aren’t focused on it. Don’t devote any time to it, as this will keep you from being able to propel yourself forward into the future. And that’s what you want, right? Living in the past will suck up your whole day and make you feel miserable. I know from experience that you don’t need that in your life today!

You Doubt Your Abilities

 

If you want to make changes to better your life or move forward, you can’t do so if you constantly doubt yourself. Have a little confidence in yourself. Just deciding to move forward is a big step, and only the most successful people do so. If confidence is something you struggle with, consider trying some tactics to increase your confidence. And please do this before making a large change in your life.

 

You Are Hanging With The Wrong Crowd

 

Are all your friends stuck in dead-end jobs? I bet they complain about how miserable they are, don’t they? According to Jim Rohn, you are the combination of the five people you are closest to in life. And if these people aren’t going anywhere, you likely won’t either.

 

Be especially careful if you find yourself spending time with people who seem to talk down about your future. Don’t let their negative outlook become yours, as this could end up holding you back big time. No one said moving forward was easy, but it may feel impossible if you are being held back. Instead, choose to make changes to your life to stop your convictions, past, and your friends from holding you back. After all, moving forward is part of being successful and having a happy life.

 

 

 

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A New Beginning

A New Beginning

Tips On Embracing New Beginnings

 

A new beginning can be challenging and stressful, especially if you start over in a new location or a new profession. Although there isn’t any way to make these changes easier, below are some tips to help you conquer and embrace your new beginning.

First Principles – Break It Down

 

Just like breaking a large goal down into smaller ones can help it feel more accomplishable, so too can breaking down a big change make it more manageable. If you are moving, see if you can break your move into three days. Or maybe you spend the day before setting up the utilities at the new place, and that way, when you are tired from moving your stuff the next day, everything is already ready to go.

 

Find A Support System – Your Foundation

 

Whether it’s a new job or a new city, make sure you have a support system. Even if they aren’t nearby, just having someone you can call with weekly updates can do wonders for managing your stress level.

You can also build a new support system wherever you are going. If you are new to a job, they will often have a designated new hire person you can go to with questions. Maybe see if you can exchange numbers and grab a coffee. You never know who could end up being a great new friend!

 

Have A Role Model

 

It can be important to have a role model for especially drastic changes, maybe someone who has made a similar move and thrived from it. This doesn’t have to be someone famous; it could even just be a family member. But whenever you are stressed about your big change, remember how your model handled it. You definitely don’t want your new beginning to be stressful.

Enjoy Yourself – Follow Your Heart

 

Most of all, don’t forget to have fun! This is a new beginning, and no matter what has changed in your life, there are likely to be a few growing pains. So, embrace all the new fun things, and learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. It’s all part of the process! And if you tell yourself you will enjoy your change, chances are you will.

 

New beginnings can be a drastic change for anyone, but there are several things you can do to embrace and make the most of them. Just remember to break the change down, reference your support system or role model, and have fun! Before you know it, the new beginning will be your amazing new normal.

 

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