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Forgiveness: Another Way to Eliminate Negativity

Forgiveness: Another Way to Eliminate Negativity

Forgiveness

When people treat you wrong, it is very easy to hold a grudge. You may not understand how it could be possible to forgive someone for a slight, especially if the action was especially hurtful. Maybe you think forgiveness is about the other person and somehow, they benefit from you forgiving them. Forgiveness is not about the other person; it is about you.

Do YOU Know How To Forgive?

Forgiving another person does not always mean they stay in your life. Sometimes you do not even let them know you are forgiving them. You do not even need to trust them again. Just forgive them to eliminate the negativity in your life.

A Method

Even horrific crimes can be forgiven. For safety reasons, you may want to use an indirect way of forgiving them instead of contacting them directly. Write a letter as if you plan on sending it to the other person. Talk about how what they did made you feel, and about how it made you think about yourself. Write about how you are no longer going to allow them space in your head and how you forgive them for what they did to you.

And Then

When you finish writing, seal up the letter in an envelope and put their name on the front. Then either throw it away (shred it first!) or burn the letter. It does not have to actually be read by the person you are forgiving, this exercise is to help you get past the negativity and the chains that are holding you back as a person.

Professional Help

If you find you can’t forgive on your own, you may want to talk with a professional. Therapy can really help you get past this hurdle. Especially if the person committed a serious crime. If you have been abused, particularly over a long period of time, you may need therapy to help you get past what was done to you. There is nothing wrong with seeking help.

And After – Forgiveness

Once you have forgiven the other person, you will feel like a weight has been lifted, or chains have been removed. Grudges are not healthy for you and they do not affect the other person. When you bottle up negative feelings, you can increase your risks of developing heart disease, and other health conditions. You tend to age faster as well. Not forgiving others can dim your overall outlook on life, so why put yourself through all of that?

REMEMBER

Remember that forgiveness is not about the other person, it is about eliminating the negativity in your own life.

So free yourself today by forgiving others for the wrongs they have done to you.

Making the Decision to Build Your Business

Making the Decision to Build Your Business

“To get new results you must take new actions and all actions are fathered by a decision.” – Anthony Robbins

 

The Importance of Making a Committed Decision

The first step in building a successful business is making the decision to do it!

I want you to think about that for a moment.  The first step in achieving a successful business is to plan to do so.  I bring this up because so many business owners jump into the profession and immediately focus on how to get clients. Then, how to make money, then how to market, and how to close sales. All this before they have fully committed to having a successful business, to begin with. Is this you?

A committed decision is a foundational pillar upon which your successful business is built.


Definition: Decision

That’s powerful!   Isn’t it? That’s the kind of committed decision you must make about your business.

For example, you could decide to do whatever it takes.  You could decide to build a successful business or to make a meaningful impact in the world.  One of my favorites is beautifully simple: Commit to being a business owner.  Decide to be a business owner!

Unfortunately, a lot of business owners who are “trying” to grow their business haven’t made a committed decision to succeed as a business owners.  They are feeling things out, waiting to see what happens, and hoping to get clients.  There is no real commitment or determination.  Don’t let this happen to you!  The first step to going from “trying” to “succeeding” is a decision.

Benefits of Making a Decision

Building a business is not easy.  If you don’t fully commit to doing what it takes, you won’t succeed.  It’s that simple.

When you make and connect with your committed decision, you will have more focus, clarity, and purpose. You will have more inspiration and more motivation.  Let’s face it, obstacles will arise!  If it was easy to build a successful and profitable business, everyone would be a business owner.

Your decision will remind you of the reasons why you became a business owner and why you want to succeed in this business. Right? When you deeply connect with your decision and your reasons, you will be inspired to take the action necessary to succeed.

This may sound contradictory, but the decision, in and of itself, means nothing.  It is the inspired action that results from you making a decision and connecting with it every day that really matters.

What a Decision is, it’s Not a Goal

I think goal setting is great, but the power to achieve them comes from the DECISION.  The first step is to make a committed decision. THEN you set goals that are congruent with your decision.  But the decision comes first.

Decision: Declaration, commitment, general, comes before the goal.  Example: To have a successful business

Goal: Where you want to be, specific, measurable. Example: To have 10 new clients in 6 months.

A Decision is Not a Mission Statement

I don’t want you to turn your decision into a long, flowery, descriptive mission statement.  There is nothing wrong with having a mission statement for your business or life, it’s just not what I recommend right now!

I’d like you to make a decision that stirs up your emotions.  Your decision should connect you with your passion for business.  Your decision should strengthen your commitment, inspiring you to act even when it isn’t easy.

Decision: Clear, Concise, Memorable, Inspiring.  Example: My life purpose is to be a good business owner.  It is who I am.

Mission Statement: A narrative description of a purpose or aim Example: I endeavor to manifest my destiny by enabling single women to achieve greater fulfillment while contributing to the peace and joy of humanity.

Below is a short lesson on making decisions.

Assignment 1 – Make Your Decision

Make a conscious decision, a real declaration, about your commitment and desire to build a successful business.

Ask Yourself: “What decision can I make right now that will spur me into action and help me stay committed to being a successful business owner?”

Examples: “I commit to building a successful business.” “I’m doing this and not giving up!” “I’m an amazing business owner with a huge practice and great life.” “I commit to being a masterful business owner, having a thriving practice and living the life of my dreams.”

Elements of a Powerful Decision
  • Clear:  It should be easily understood by a 12-year-old.
  • Concise/Memorable: You should be able to easily recite your decision from memory. Evokes Feeling The actual sentence isn’t as important as the feeling behind it.
  • Inspires Action: The best decision you can make is one that inspires you to take action, even when you don’t feel like it.

Are You Ready?  Take time RIGHT NOW and make a powerful decision that inspires and motivates you.  This is a critical piece of the foundation upon which your successful business is built.

My Decision:

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Assignment 2 – Build Your Commitment

Now that you have made a decision, the next step is to get fully committed.  The key is desire! Identify WHY you want to make it as

Identify WHY you want to make it as a business owner.  You need to be fully committed to your decision, because if you’re not, you may falter when challenges arise.  And there will be challenges.

It’s not always easy to build a successful business!  The key is having strong, compelling reasons so you commit to your decision, take action, and never give up. Below, write down all the reasons WHY you just made a committed decision.

This is a critical step, so set aside some time and think deeply.   Why is this important to you?  Is this the reason you were put on the earth?  Will it enable you to be the best you can be?  Will it give you the freedom you desire?  How happy and fulfilled will you feel?  How will this impact others?

Why I am committed to my DECISION:

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Assignment 3 – Create a Contract with Yourself

Finally, print the contract on the next page, sign it, and hang it where you can be reminded of your promise to yourself every day.

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