Today’s article is about getting comfortable with change. So hang onto your hats because it’s a good one. Dealing with a change in your life can be downright uncomfortable. Don’t you agree? I mean the larger the change, the more uncomfortable you will feel. Although these feelings are completely normal, there are several ways you can help yourself become more comfortable with change. I’ll explain below.
Let Go Of Past Convictions
If you face a big change, you’re going to have to let go of the way things were before. Whether this is how you used to do things or the way you used to think about something. Either way, you will be unable to embrace and be comfortable with your current change if you are still worried about something which happened in the past. It’s time to let go.
Decide Where You Want To Go
Time and time again, studies have shown that there is power behind visualization and positive convictions. And this most certainly applies in times of change. If you decide you will be comfortable with the change, no matter what may come your way, that is likely how things will go.
Know What Makes You Happy
In times of stress, it is important to know yourself and how best to release your stress. If you are facing an especially uncomfortable part of a change, it can help you do something you do find comfort in to lessen the feeling of discomfort. For example, if you like to run and have just moved to a new city, consider going out for a run in your new location to increase your comfort levels.
Learn To Adapt
This may seem like a given, but part of becoming comfortable with change is learning to expect things to change. Be ready to assimilate yourself into these changes. The change will seem much less drastic when you mentally prepare yourself for it. You can help increase your adaptability by spending time in meditation and visualizing possible changes that could come.
It could also help you have backup plans for yourself. So if something fails on the first try, you have a backup plan in the meantime until you try again. Just knowing you have a backup plan will feel a bit like a safety net, helping you feel more confident and comfortable when changes inevitably come.
Overall, change is uncomfortable, but you can help increase your comfort level by learning to let go, knowing where you want to be, and the things in life which make you happy. Change is inevitable, so increase your comfort with change by learning to adapt and prepare for it.
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Changes, no matter how minor, can be an extremely difficult part of life. But if you know that changes are coming (and they always are), there are ways in which you can adjust your mindset. You will need to prepare yourself for these changes. So, in today’s article How to Get into a Mindset Ready for Change, we are going to discuss a few methods on how you can get ready for the changes to come.
First, Let The Past Go
If you are holding on to something, or someone in your past, it will be impossible to meet the future with open arms. And since you never know when it may be time to change, make it a practice to let go of things that regularly negatively impact your life. That way, you will be able to adequately embrace change when it does arrive.
Stay Curious Mentality
Never be afraid to ask questions. And keep your mind open when you get answers. By questioning the things around you, you engage your critical thinking skills, which may be required when you make a change. Staying curious is best done by asking “what-if” questions about any situation you may encounter.
Have Backup Plans
A lot of people think having a backup plan is not having confidence in yourself. And this isn’t entirely true. Although you should never plan to use your backup plans, you should still have them. Creating scenarios when things may go wrong engages the same critical thinking skills listed above. And having these critical thinking skills can help you better anticipate problems or issues. This makes changes much easier to embrace.
Look For Inspiration
If you are going through every day on autopilot when change happens, it will likely shock you. You won’t know how to respond. On the flip side, if you are constantly looking for ways in which your life will change, you can expect one of two things. When it does change, you will be more prepared to handle whatever is coming your way. And two, even if it changes in a way you didn’t expect. One of the best ways to look for inspiration is just by looking within yourself during a period of meditation or visualization.
If you want to be ready and prepared to meet whatever change comes your way, you must get into the proper mindset now. You can get yourself in this mindset by leaving the past behind, remaining curious, looking for inspiration, and by having backup plans. All of these combined will help clear your mind and prepare your critical thinking skills to conquer the unknown.
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Examples Of New Beginnings That Could Change Your Life
Deciding on new beginnings can be scary or stressful. But they can also be exciting and invigorating. Either way, change is important and often necessary. It could change your life if you’re looking for a change. Below are a few examples of new beginnings that you might find interesting.
These examples could change your life:
Deciding To Start Your Own Business
Quitting your job to pursue your ventures can be extremely difficult and stressful. But if you do so, you will likely have more time and energy to apply to your business, which will likely help your business reach new heights. Before you know it, you’ll be working on your schedule and enjoying financial freedom like never before!
Paying Off Your Debt And Resolving Not To Acquire More
For most people, getting out of debt is a long road. And once you make it there, you may be tempted to use that credit card once again. But resist the temptation. Starting over and telling yourself, that you are done with credit could change your life. Not only will you have to adjust your daily spending habits, but you’ll be surprised at all you can save. From there, the sky is the limit!
Preliminary ideas that might work:
Moving Somewhere New
Are you unhappy where you are living? In this day and age, it is easier than ever to pack up and go somewhere else! So, don’t wait! When you move to a new location, now only are you physically changing your life. Still, you are also opening yourself up to a myriad of new experiences and people. Who knows which of those may be part of the amazing future life you are creating?
Quitting Junk Food
Although it can be difficult, if you create a new beginning where you no longer buy junk food, eat out, and resolve to cook for yourself instead, the results will be astounding. Not only will your everyday life likely transform, but you will find that you feel better, which can have effects on other parts of your life. This one may not be as drastic as the others on the list, but it is still a commitment to a new beginning that could change your life for the better!
Making new beginnings your decision:
Overall, new beginnings can be any time you decide to make a drastic change to a portion of your life. Or, your entire life. It depends on you and what you want for yourself.
If this were me, I would stop sitting around, and start looking for a new beginning to transform my life into whatever I want it to be. Changes won’t happen unless YOU take action! Make some decisions NOW!
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Living your best year depends on the actions you take right now. So even though you might be stuck with how to move your business forward, I’m providing a few tips for you that might help.
Most of the world sees a new year as a time to make massive changes in their lives, it’s the daily choices that lead to lasting change. That’s why New Year’s Resolutions are so ineffectual. Yes, you heard that correctly! This year, you can start and finish strong by making better choices each day.
Living Your Best Year
Below are some tips for making sure this is your best year ever:
Break It Down—whether you want to save for a dream home, start a business or get healthier, you need to recognize it’s going to take time. Our desire for instant gratification can lead us to give up before we even really get started pursuing our goals. Chose the one big thing you want to have by the end of the year and then break down the steps you’ll need to take to make it happen. Then break them down even further. Come up with small tasks that you can complete daily in only 10-30 minutes. That will not only help you see the goal as a journey (so you don’t give up too soon), but it also makes the goal easier to tackle.
Choosing Yourself First
Track Your Time—we’re all busy. But many people use busyness as an excuse for keeping the status quo, even when they say they want to change. One simple way to find “wasted time” in your schedule is to track it. For at least three days, keep track of what you do all day long. You can use an app, spreadsheet, or a simple notepad to keep track. You’ll soon start to notice you spend more time watching TV, playing games, and checking social media than you would have thought. Once you are aware of this wasted time, choose yourself instead. Use that time to research career programs, enjoy a hobby, or spend more time with family. Whatever your goal is this year, choosing to spend your time working on it each day will make sure you end the year where you want to be.
Choose To Be Happy
Redesign Your Life—Most of us sleepwalk through life more often than we care to admit. If you want to live a happier, more fulfilling life, take stock of what makes you happy. What brings you joy and makes you feel alive? Now, redesign your life to make sure those things are a part of it. Look back at your time-tracking list (from above). What obligations and expectations can you modify or delete entirely, so you live a life full of joy and purpose. Make a conscious decision to choose to live life to the fullest every day.
You Choose Your Life
One of the best choices you can make is to remember why you decided to go in the direction that you have made for your life. Sometimes the choices are for a reason. You might not know the reason but in everyone’s life, there are journeys that must be taken for you to learn certain aspects of life. Whether it’s being a mom, a wife, a girlfriend, or just a single woman, you can’t expect to know everything unless you live it. That’s what I’ve found out anyway in my life. Yes, you might make some mistakes along the way but if they don’t show up in your path how are you ever going to learn? You can read all the books in the world but living and being at that stage is more important than any lesson you can learn from a book.
My Favorite Method
For me, at the beginning of the year, I only make one to two goals because I don’t want to overload myself. One is for my personal life and one is for my business life. I find that if my goals are too defined, like step 1 – step 10, I will never reach that goal. I try to just make it simple and basic. It works for me and is something you might want to start doing also. Try not to stress yourself out about what you can and can’t accomplish. You’d be surprised by the end of the year just how much you’ve accomplished. And this is why I choose this method of planning out my goals. Yes, I could have 15 different goals on my list, but if I don’t get them all completed, I just feel defeated. And that is definitely not the way I want to feel. I’m sure you don’t either!
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Do you find that life is harder than it needs to be? Yeah, me too sometimes, it’s just reality. Today’s blog is all about what NOT to do when life is hard. You might think that this is ridiculous but it’s really not.
Life has its Challenges
Here are some points that you might think about:
Don’t fall into the blame game
The first thing we typically do when something goes wrong is to blame. We blame others or ourselves, depending on the situation but blaming does no good whatsoever. It’s a waste of energy and keeps us focused on the problem, not the solution. Notice when you feel you want to blame or self-judge and come back to how you can solve the problem instead.
Don’t give up – let go
You may feel like giving up when it feels like the sky is falling in. But what is the alternative? Rather than giving up on the possibility of feeling happy again or on your dreams for the future, let go of the attachment to them. This means you should go ahead and dream and take the action that can make those dreams into a reality. But, don’t buy into the belief that if they don’t happen, that you won’t be able to be happy.
Sometimes FEAR is Controlling
Don’t numb yourself
There are many ways we numb ourselves to the pain we feel throughout our lives. Of course, we could use drugs or alcohol, but even more often, we use keeping incredibly busy or tuning out by watching TV or playing mindless games. Even though it’s not fun, it’s important for your healing to experience the pain that you feel. Unless you do that, the pain will stay with you in various forms until you allow yourself to feel it.
Don’t isolate yourself
When we are scared, embarrassed, or worried, our natural instinct is to hide away to lick our wounds. Of course, there is a time for that – a time when we need to be alone with our feelings and thoughts but it’s too easy to stay in that place of isolation for longer than is healthy. The less connection we feel to family and friends, the more depressed we become. This almost always increases our feelings of fear and worry. So, make a point to be around the positive, supportive people in your life, even when you don’t feel like it.
Don’t hang out with negative people
When you feel like life sucks, you are more vulnerable than at other times when life seems rosy. Being around people who are always complaining or blaming is a sure way to make yourself feel worse. Know that it’s okay to say ‘no thanks’ to invitations that you know will end up in a huge complaining or back-biting session. Instead, get together with people who support your dreams and visions of the future.
I know this is a lot to think about but in order to have a great life, you’ve got to go down this road to come out the other side to be happy. Trust me, I’ve been there before and it’s NOT pretty. But life struggles are real, you’ve just got to get through them the best way you can. If you need help I offer 1×1 mentoring sessions.
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